Yes, but what do YOU bring?
A couple of years ago a friend of mine pissed me off something fierce. We were close, growing closer, and had more than a mild flirtation (from 1,000 miles away). Periodically I’d entertain thoughts of Could he be The One? and I had little doubt he wondered the same. But ...
4th December 2021
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For the Newbie Subs out there
Your safety is also your responsibility. Like so many areas of life, there are predators that stalk the BDSM world for fresh meat, those that are unaware of what the predator is like or what they have done, and here on Tumblr is no different. This is available from many internet ...
2nd January 2016
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45 Things a girl wants, but won't ask for
1. Touch her waist. 2. Actually talk to her. 3. Share secrets with her. 4. Give her your jacket.5. Kiss her slowly. Are you remembering this?6. Hug her.7. Hold her.8. Laugh with her.9. Invite her somewhere.10. Hangout with her and your friends together. KEEP READING ..11. ...
1st October 2015
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A New Sub’s Lesson Learned
To have someone you love leave you - to suddenly go dark and silent with little explanation - is hurtful enough. To have that be the the first person to whom you offered your wrists, your vulnerability, your submission is a breach of trust so deep and so painful as to be nearly ...
1st October 2015 (Updated 3rd February 2019)
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New Submissive's Tips on Behavior
Finding the One is not an easy task and submissives are at some definite disadvantages compared to their "vanilla" counterparts. The nature of submissives can make them less likely to initiate an encounter with someone who has caught their eye and the D/s lifestyle makes it difficult ...
10th April 2015
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Sub Frenzy
What exactly is sub-frenzy? Sub-frenzy is a phenomenon that affects many new submissives. It’s that first rush of overwhelming, consuming desire to experience every kind of kink, as soon as possible, often to the point of neglecting all other concerns. Most of us have ...
10th April 2015
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Submissive Traits: Leadership
Recently my Muse sent me the Joey Hill quote in the post pictured above, and in addition to meaning a great deal to me during a time of personal and professional stress, it set me to thinking more globally about the ways in which a submissive at times serves their Master through ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 3rd February 2019)
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Naive Sub Syndrome
There is a dangerous illness in the D/s lifestyle. This illness is "Naive Sub Syndrome."This Syndrome is a common, yet not widely talked about, affliction seen specifically in the submissive community most often within the female population. This is also associated with a similar ...
8th April 2015
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The Reponsibilties of a Submissive
Spend adequate time exploring yourself, your needs and desires.Educate yourself - make the most of the resources that are available, but don't believe everything you hear or read. Trust reputable sources, but make your own mind up about what is the truth.Learn what your needs, ...
8th April 2015
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Characteristics of a Successful Submissive
Acceptance: This is the ability to see and accept yourself for who and what you are, be they your good points or your bad ones. This includes knowing your limitations yet keeping the thought that things can change and knowing you will change as well. This is the ability to let ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 8th August 2017)
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Why Being a Sub is Like Being an Employee
I get a lot of complaints in my message box from Doms who vent to me about their submissives agreeing to serve and then somehow along the way deciding that the relationship needs to go on their own terms. I’ve heard some say that their subs think that if they are ever asked ...
8th April 2015
Views : 1966
Undesirable Traits in Submissives
People develop specific personality traits, that then define if they can be submissive or not.There are a few, however, that don’t lend themselves to being a vital part of submission and can in fact cause a lot of strife. If these can not be curbed it is likely you are ...
8th April 2015
Views : 3096
Male Submission - Something not often talked about
This question gets asked time and time again (in one guise or another) in lifestyle forums. What are Dominants looking for? Is x, y or z a desirable trait in a submissive? How can I make myself more desirable or appealing to a Dominant? Do dominant women like this, that or the ...
8th April 2015
Views : 1833
How to Build Up a Submissive’s Confidence
he same way you would build up ANY one’s confidence, be it a submissive, a slave, a little, a Master, a Dominant/me, a Daddy, a vanilla.By looking at them as an individual and seeing where their issues lie.Once again a post in Kinky & Popular on Fetlife has caught my ...
8th April 2015
Views : 6018
A Submissive Understanding
Many Dominants enter the lifestyle believing that they naturally know what a submissive needs. This is an obtuse outlook which creates a dangerous situation. The truth is the only way one can know who to truly dominate is to understand what a submissive goes through. This is ...
8th April 2015
Views : 2928
The Question Subs All Must Face: "Have I Lost My Desire To Be Submissive?"
Someday, sometime, somehow, it's going to happen. No matter how good your D/s relationship is, it is going to happen. Even if you have the most caring, sensitive, responsive, loving Dominant in the world, it is going to happen. It has happened to the strongest of subs. It has ...
8th April 2015
Views : 2501
Ways to Ruin Your Subs
Note ...... yes the following uses He for Dom and she for sub .... but can we please pretend its gender fluid for arguments sakeA submissive does not come with an instruction manual and there is no such thing as a perfect Dominant.You can read every lifestyle book you can get ...
8th April 2015
Views : 2365
The 7 Needy Subs
1. POOR-ME SUB:This “sub” always has something going wrong in her life. Of course, it is never her fault..she is always being played upon and victimized by others. If only she found the *perfect* dom, her life would be problem-free and forever-blissful.Favorite IM ...
8th April 2015
Views : 4790
Your Submissive - Handle With Care!
write often about the dance on the fringe of darkness - where the Dominant leads and the submissive anticipates and follows to the best of her ability. With the right music, experience, motivation, chemistry, and trust - the result is breathtaking in its beauty, erotic intensity, ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 30th July 2017)
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The Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship
I wanted to write about some of the health hazards that ignoring can cause.Ignoring your sub is NOT, I repeat NOT a form of punishment. It is a form of mental abuse. Submissives are needy by nature and if a Dom is not ready to accept that responsibility, then D/s is not for them. ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 3rd February 2019)
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10 Things a Submissive needs but won’t say out loud
1. Please touch usCuddle us, spoon us, grab the small of our backs. Kiss our foreheads and make us feel small. We crave your hands all over us. We love them no matter where they happen to land—be that on our asses or up our skirts.Just. Touch. Us. It reminds us that we’re ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 4th December 2021)
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Submissive Rights
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT.Not only do you have this right, but you also have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 4th December 2021)
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The Alpha Submissive Female
I have been reading quite a lot lately how certain Doms think there is no such thing as an Alpha Sub. Guess what? I've got news for you because I am one of those things that you don't think exist. I am an Alpha Sub, and I am extremely proud of that.Some may laugh and snigger ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 4th December 2021)
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How to Properly: Dominate, tame and have a healthy relationship with a: strong, free-spirited, Alpha Female
Boy, I had no idea what the fuck I was getting myself into. I have met numerous submissive females and every single one of them was soo eager to serve me once they felt they were comfortable and knew they were safe in my presence. You could see it written all over their face, ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 4th December 2021)
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