Sex is a deep, powerful and emotional issue. It has been researched, documented, televised and put on show for all to see for generations. Yet people are still as confused as ever.
BDSM is on the other hand is steeped in mystery and intrigue. But it too is as old as time itself. Drawings from Ancient Rome dated around the 9th Century B.C. have been discovered in tombs that depict a woman pleasuring a man while another man both whips and excites her. Around the same time in India the oldest writings on sex known to man the Kama Sutra was born. It too refers to biting, scratching, marking and spanking your lover during lovemaking.
BDSM was originally known as sadomasochism. Trouble with that tag is that all people that were involved in the activity were not sadomasichists. So the term BDSM came about - Bondage & Discipline (BD), Dominance & Submission (DS) and Sadomasochism (SM). People within the new realm became know as a Dominant or Submissive, a Top or a Bottom or may even be a Switch. Safe Words were incorporated and personal Boundaries were pushed. In fact a whole glossary of terms was created, books were written and a lifestyle was embraced.
Wherever you fit in, whatever your kink or even if you're just curious (and want to keep your distance), check in to the Beautifully Bound blog regularly and keep up to date with what's new and what people are doing with that rope behind closed doors.
18 Signs That He’s the (Dominant) Man For You
It’s been a long and dusty road, but it’s finally happened! You’ve met a great guy who - dare I say it out loud? - could possibly be The One. But how do you know? Compatibility doesn’t exactly come with a banner in the sky, so most of us have to rely on ...
24th July 2019 (Updated 15th October 2021)
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D/s Hierarchy
We’ve all seen some version of this. But here’s how I write it, with the most important at the top: submissive needsDominant needsDominant wantsDominant whimssubmissive wants Submissives FirstIn my mind, this is the only way it works. The submissive’s needs ...
24th July 2019 (Updated 15th October 2021)
Views : 10138
Recognising a Respectful Dominant
How do you deal with finding a Dom who respects that women ARE actually people? I often find myself struggling to fully commit to a D/s relationship as I always seem to end up with men who believe it’s just their right to make me do things, without caring that a Dom should ...
24th July 2019 (Updated 15th October 2021)
Views : 4724
What’s in a Name?
We have a responsibility to actually title ourselves properly and the reason for that is because so many throw out title’s without first learning what those title’s/labels truly mean. For example those 20yr old “Masters” out there that have ZERO understanding ...
30th July 2017 (Updated 15th October 2021)
Views : 2835
Difference between a Sub and a Bottom
Just a quick & simple note as the question of what the difference between a submissive vs a bottom is as it comes up quite a bit so here is the answer to help people have a clear understanding of each as they are not the same at all. submissive: submits entirely and gives ...
30th July 2017
Views : 5080
Foundations to Healthy Communication
Communication: No matter where you go within the community, communication is the one thing we always preach should be at the forefront of not only the relationship but we also have to ensure it is at the forefront of each and every one of us as individuals. This goes for ANY ...
30th July 2017
Views : 1674
Thinking Before Speaking
Often we get folks outside of BDSM who visit our page either by chance, they see it on a friends feed or search in curiosity which is awesome and we love helping those who seek enlightenment on what BDSM truly is about. You come by choice, and that is fantastic and we welcome ...
30th July 2017 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 1786
BDSM Symbols and their Meanings
Ownership Icons allow people in the BDSM Lifestyle to proudly show their involvement in the subculture, their status, and orientation. The first 4 icons were initially designed by Tanos and used in 1995 by The Slave Register. They were designed to have a clear symbolism corresponding ...
27th May 2017 (Updated 3rd December 2021)
Views : 328699 | Comments : 3
Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)
I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her. I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark ...
2nd November 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 4362
Understanding Equality
"It is this wanting/needing of expectations that makes Dominants and submissives equal" It never ceases to amaze me those who look down on someone for their particular bent in the lifestyle (Top or bottom) or feel that Dominant equals better and submissive equals lesser. Now ...
1st October 2015
Views : 2243
Some Conceptions and Misconceptions
I've seen many things on IRC that do not fit into anything I've learned in real life. Although some are relatively harmless, they do add to the confusion of what is expected of new submissives in a real-life situation, as well as online. These are only a few of the more obvious ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 2326
Just a bit of info on collars & their meanings
Posture Collar You’ve probably seen these collars in pictures, they tend to be fairly large and cover up most of the neck, some even touch the chin and the base of the skull. They are worn to for photographic purposes, as a fashion statement/fun, or a way to restrict neck ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 11040
Munch Etiquette
When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave.So what is a ...
8th April 2015
Views : 3643
Common Sense & The Power-Exchange
" When two people fall madly, head-over-heels for each other, the first thing to go, is common sense."The bottom line to success in a power-exchange, or perhaps any relationship dynamic, is the same as any, common sense.Common sense means you think and apply logic to all you ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 2467
Dominant / Submissive ...... Really ?
I think one of the problems with the some of the modern subs and Dominants, is that BDSM and the power-exchange have been turned into porn and kink, putting a casual spin on it, and now everyone is a damn sub, everyone is a damn Dominant, and there is no real commitment, so they ...
8th April 2015
Views : 2214
Priorities
The bond between Dominant and submissive creates a sense of loyalty and devotion that can overshadow everything else in life if we are not careful. It is not uncommon for both Dominants and submissives to display an attachment and devotion that can border on neediness. This connection ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 3553
BDSM Is Not A Cure
One thing I hear all the time from people in the lifestyle or who want to enter into the lifestyle is that BDSM is some sort of cure-all for the woes of their life. Yes, BDSM is fun and can be safe, but it’s not going to make you younger or happier. You may have a lovely ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 2717
Inappropriate Touching
Most of us come into The Scene with some idea about what to expect from others. We often think the people that we will meet at a munch, or other BDSM event will act in honorable and ethical ways. So we come into events with our guard down and ready to flirt, and talk to others ...
8th April 2015
Views : 2055
BDSM - Abuse vs. BDSM: Signs, Examples and Discussion
This is a very important topic that is very close to my heart. I have been in and out of abusive relationships most of my life and because of such actions and their effects on me I have always found a way to rationalize the abuse into being part of my BDSM lifestyle. This is ...
8th April 2015 (Updated 16th October 2021)
Views : 14687 | Comments : 1
Why she wants to be a Submissive - The Importance of Submission
A while back I was searching the internet like a crazy lady looking for any information on submission I could find. I wanted to know everything about it, why people do it, do they just do it for fun, how far into BDSM do they go, did 50 shades of grey spark an interest or is ...
1st March 2013 (Updated 15th October 2021)
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