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Dominant / Submissive ...... Really ?

Dominant / Submissive ...... Really ?

I think one of the problems with the some of the modern subs and Dominants, is that BDSM and the power-exchange have been turned into porn and kink, putting a casual spin on it, and now everyone is a damn sub, everyone is a damn Dominant, and there is no real commitment, so they just move on to the next individual.

There are countless numbers of subs AND Dominants, who have a strong tendency to believe rough sex equals submission, and I cannot even count how many Dominant males have claimed to be Dominant, but every question asked to them about D/s or M/s tends to be answered with a sexual inference that indicates that they knew little or nothing about really being a Dominant, or subs who thought they were going to get to fuck, however, they do not even know how to sweep a floor or provide service in an acceptable way. They call themselves slaves and subs, yet they have zero training or knowledge about what they are even claiming to be.

Some of these subs or slaves fill out their profiles on the Internet and other forms of social media, thinking and/or believing "Well, I like to have my hair grabbed and my ass smacked so, I am a submissive," but they don't like cleaning house, cooking for their dominant or owners, or giving any other kind of service so really, as they are just a casual bottom.

Then, some Dominants are clueless too, and do not know how to spot a real submissive, because they are not real Dominants, because they just merely know they like to smack ass while they are fucking.

Folks! That is not BDSM, that is just plain ole sex!
The power-exchange and BDSM was once an incredibly spiritual journey upon which the majority of participants embarked with a deep sense of honor and respect, and currently, with everything from the BBC madness to the world of porn, D/s and M/s seems to have disappeared under the ubiquitous umbrella of BDSM, and now, this what some subs and dominants think submitting and dominating consists of; a sub splitting his or her legs or spreading eagle.

That is not submission or dominance, that is just pure fucking!
Perhaps, it is because I am into the power-exchange, like I am into relationships, and I see BDSM as a side product of that relationship, just as sex would be in the traditional sense, and now, it seems to have undergone a significant shifting, because currently, it is all sex, rope and blood with strangers and very little of the power-exchange dynamic.

Also, IMHO, if a submissive experiences fears or doubts concerning what a Dominant is asking them to do, then possibly the Dominant has not really taken the time to completely gain and develop the submissive's full trust.

Author: David Coates


Posted By David Coates

Updated : 8th April 2015 | Words : 468 | Views : 2036

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