One thing I hear all the time from people in the lifestyle or who want to enter into the lifestyle is that BDSM is some sort of cure-all for the woes of their life. Yes, BDSM is fun and can be safe, but it’s not going to make you younger or happier. You may have a lovely time in the dungeon and you might even enjoy pushing your boundaries and edges the entire time, but you will not cure things that happen outside of the bedroom by heading into the bedroom. The endorphin rush and that great session buzz will only last so long. The feelings you had before you walked in the scene will come back, no matter how great of a slave or Master/Mistress you are. If you think BDSM is a cure,
read on.
BDSM Will Not Improve An Unhealthy Relationship
Some people think that if they just do a few more kinky things in their relationship, things will be happier. While you might have lost some of the spice in your relationship, BDSM is not the way to bring the magic back into your partnership. Instead, you need to look for what is happening in your relationship and talk to your partner about how they can work with you to ensure you are heading in a more positive direction. BDSM might be fun to add to a good relationship, but when your relationship is on the rocks, adding a scene that involves having complete trust in your partner (when you don’t) is not the best of ideas.
BDSM Will Not Cure Mental Woes
Others who have general trust issues or depression or low self esteem might think that BDSM will help them create a more solid sense of themselves. This happens often with new slaves who think that being obedient to a Master or a Mistress will help them feel better about themselves. After all, if they can please one person, they must be a good person. This sort of thinking is not accurate and mental issues are best worked on with the help of a trained therapist. This professional will be able to make sure that you work through your mental problems and that you don’t bring them into the bedroom, where they can’t be solved.
BDSM Will Not Bring Happiness
Just like anything in life, the only key to happiness is the way you think about your life. Looking outside of yourself for answers, like thinking BDSM will make you happy, is not a good way to help your life. Instead, you need to understand what is truly troubling you and work on resolving those issues. You may need to talk to a professional therapist, take some much needed vacation time, spend more time connecting with your friends and family, or spend more time focused on you and your health. What you don’t need to do is bring another complicated factor into your life. BDSM is many things, but it can not make you happy when you are not.
BDSM is not a cure for the things that ail you in your life. When you have issues that are coming up for you, don’t head to the dungeon to work them out. You need to think for yourself how you can manage your problems and then enjoy the time you spend with your partner in the bedroom. Life isn’t always easy or pretty, and while BDSM might be enjoyable, it can not take the place of personal self development. You’re not in the dungeon all the time, so you need to realize that your problems follow you everywhere, especially when you’re not taking steps to deal with them.
By Alice Nyx Morris
Posted By Alice Nyx Morris
Updated : 16th October 2021 | Words : 610 | Views : 2521
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