No matter how many times I see or get this question posed it never ceases to amaze me how very little folks actually know one another when they either enter into a relationship or even worse, have been together for years. I have written about this topic before, have posted notes on it as well many times, yet the answer is always the same and so very simple, something EVERYONE should be doing already and that is to COMMUNICATE & TALK OPENLY & HONESTLY WITH ONE ANOTHER ABOUT EVERYTHING!!
I do not understand why people shy away from being upfront and adult about who they are and what they seek. So what if you get looked at like you gave horns sprouting out of your head, at least you will know right then and there if the other person is compatible with you. Why would you want someone to be a part of your life if you cannot be YOU? Life is much to short to waste a moment on holding back what you want in fear of judgement or embarrassment, so take control of your life and own up to what and who you are without shame.
Many folks tend to assume that their SO is going to not want an alternate LS and take the easy way and venture outside AKA cheating, vs actually talking to the person they are sharing their life with. They have no qualms in openly discussing their needs and desires with virtual strangers yet they cannot do this with the person they are already committed to. This to me makes no sense. You are not only thinking and predetermining what your partner will say when they could very well have the same desires as you do. You are taking away their rights within your relationship to decide on their own first prior to you deciding for them. Flip the situation around and how would you feel if your partner did not talk to you first and ended up venturing out without giving you the right to have a say? The whole purpose of any relationship regardless of label is to be with the person you want it all from, the open honest, knows you inside out, no holds barred kind of relationship. So don't think it is easier to take the easy road by guessing for them and going elsewhere on the side to fill your need, trust me it is not easy at all and in the end will create more issues than what you imagined.
If you do not get the response you want then you need to rethink your relationship and figure out if it’s going to be enough for you. You cannot change anyone to conform to you, however you CAN find the right person who is compatible for you and never sacrifice yourself in the process. Yes it will not be easy, nothing good ever is, but in the long run if you are true to yourself and your partner then the life you want will come together.
~Harlow 10/24/15 BDSM Submissive Sensual Desires
Posted By Harlow
Updated : 3rd December 2021 | Words : 516 | Views : 1273
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