An Open Letter to Doms

An Open Letter to Doms

I don’t understand you. What is your goal, exactly? I mean, ultimately, what do you hope to accomplish? Having someone who bends to your will? Someone who will do anything you ask, please you any time you wish, and say “Yes, sir” to your every command?

I’ll let you in on a little secret.

You can have all of that and more. It’s easy. Just find some young, vulnerable, uninformed little girl and tell her “I’m a Dom. If you want to be my sub, you have to do x, y, and z.” Make sure she has low self esteem, image issues, and a bit of emotional baggage. Start being overbearing, controlling every aspect of her life, and punishing her for every little infraction. Eventually you have a mindless shell of a person that will be at your beckon call every minute of the day.

But it won’t last.

You see, the problem with what you do is that people don’t work that way. Yes, you may be successful in the short term, but eventually something will break. Something in the back of her mind will eventually stop holding back and scream at her "What the fuck are you doing??? RUN!!!"

She may not leave right away. But that’s when your power will begin to fade. You may fight back, pushing even harder for obedience. But by then even you will know it’s a losing battle. You’ll know you’re wrong, even if you won’t admit it to yourself. Eventually you will lose. And if she’s lucky, you’ll end up being in the same position she was. On your knees, sucking the dick of some guy who’s bigger, badder, and stronger than you, just to make sure you wake up alive in your cell the next day.

You’d like to avoid that, right? I thought so.

But wait, what about that subservient woman who will do anything you ask?

That’s the real secret. Well, it’s not much of a secret. People have known about it for centuries. It’s called being a decent human being. It’s a foreign concept, I know, but let me help you out.

You want someone who will kneel to you and tell you “Yes, Sir,” right? Try this: Give her rules that are realistic, and serve to meet her needs. A true submissive wants to obey. She wants to look up at you from her place on her knees and think “I’ll do anything you ask.” She won’t do this, however, if she feels like the rules are unrealistic or unjustified.

You want someone who will fuck you any time you want? Try this: Treat her with dignity and respect. Make her feel like who she actually is: A beautiful, strong, independent person with her own dreams and desires. Do this, and she’ll be the one coming to you wanting sex.

I know this is a tough ask. It’s a lot to handle. It requires going against your seemingly natural instincts. It requires stepping back every so often and thinking “Am I doing what’s best for her?” It requires apologizing when you’ve done wrong. It requires occasionally bending to her will when necessary.

You’ll make mistakes. We all do. She’s going to rebel at times. Everyone does. But that’s a good thing. Mistakes help us learn. Rebellion can help her find her place on her own. It will be tough.
But I can absolutely guarantee you, in the long run, if you do it right, she will still be right where you want her to be: at your feet, ready to please.

Then, finally, you can call yourself a Dominant.


Posted By A Sexual Being

Updated : 15th October 2021 | Words : 589 | Views : 1809

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