First lets start with what is a safe word. A safe word is any word you choose to use in order to cease any activity immediately. Secondly, It should be a word that you will always remember in order for your Dominant to always be alert in the event they hear it.
There are no exceptions or leniency when a safe word is used, ALL activity must cease then and there period! Everyone is entitled to one regardless of role within this Lifestyle unless you have given up that choice of your own free will, which I personally do not advise anyone to forgo their right to one.
I personally like to keep thing's as simple as possible so my chosen safe word has always been “RED”. I use the “traffic light system” which is I have found beneficial to me as well as my partner in order to communicate with one simple word vs detailed talks during play (not to say that one should not talk but I for one at times get so lost in the moment that I simply cannot hold a conversation properly) so in addition I also use “YELLOW” when I am needing the activity to be slowed/toned down a bit in order to let my partner know I am getting close to my limit. This in turn allows me a bit of a breather in order to settle myself down emotionally or physically, so we can continue without actually stopping and lastly I will at times use “GREEN” when I more or can handle more of what is being given during play.
What if you are gagged and cannot speak in order to safe word? In the event of such, you will have to have silent codes established with your partner beforehand so you can still safe word without speaking. You need to agree to what method you choose to use for those occasions so you can still play safely without fear of not being “heard”. In these instances it is crucial for your partner to be extremely alert so they do not miss either a hand/finger signal, eye signal or whatever means of silent safe words you agree upon.
As it is your right to have a safe word it also comes with responsibility, not only when using it but also when not using it. Do not push yourself to the point of not using it when you need to because it is there for YOU, for your safety and also to keep your partner safe too in the event you do not safe word and they end up hurting you unintentionally. This can cause your partner confusion and will not be able to properly know what your boundaries truly are, not to mention they will feel responsible as well for any harm that came to you.
~Harlow 8/9/16 BDSM Submissive Sensual Desires
Posted By Harlow
Updated : 3rd December 2021 | Words : 480 | Views : 1331
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