If you're reading this then you've managed to locate this page which is about the BDSM Lifestyle. Just as you managed to search for this page among the countless other LS pages you follow or groups you are in etc then you have no excuse to not be able to search information regarding the LS elsewhere too.
Google should be your best friend at this point in order for you to begin or proceed to delve deeper into your journey. However for every 1 person who actually does take the time to study there are 99 others who are constantly looking for the shortcuts and info handed to them on a virtual silver platter.
Yes, we completely encourage people to ask questions to better educate themselves but there is a big difference between asking questions to actually expecting to be given a crash course into the LS. I truly cannot tell you how many times people have approached me (and countless other people in the LS) wanting a step-by-step custom-tailored account of "how-to" and they expect this all in the matter of a conversation.
THAT IS NOT the way this works. One conversation in an hour or so will never cover the vast complexity of BDSM and every facet therein. It takes a lot of time and patience to actually research and not only learn the most you can but also understand yourself and what you are and what you are looking to achieve within the LS.
It took me a good year of learning on my own and researching as much as I could before I set out and actually stepped within the LS. Had I not taken the time to do so my experiences most possibly would have been like many horror stories we hear every day. I am one of the fortunate ones that have, for the most part, managed to navigate safely and have had wonderful Dom's, however even with all my experience and knowledge I too have made mistakes along the way, mistakes that I should have known better.
I am human after all and will make mistakes but I do not plan on repeating my errors because they taught me lessons I will never forget. I held myself accountable for my failure in keeping myself safe either emotionally or physically. Yes, the other person is to blame as well but the bottom line is I own my part of it and did not play the victim as many do. You can only blame others so much but you need to hold yourself accountable even more so. We all have a choice, we all know right from wrong and it is up to us individually to make the best decisions for ourselves because no one else will.
Trying to rush and take the easy way will only hinder your progress into developing the ideal life you seek within the LS. Remember, knowledge is power and if you do not invest the time to educate yourself then you alone have failed.
~Harlow 2/25/16 BDSM Submissive Sensual Desires
Posted By Harlow
Updated : 4th December 2021 | Words : 511 | Views : 1645
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